However, as I learned on my job and when I planned my first wedding, sometimes it becomes less about that and more about the "what you are supposed to do". Which isn't enchanting at all.
So, if you are a bride-to-be or a groom-to-be who's more about the "being married" part and have definite (or not so definite ideas) on the best way to celebrate that, may I suggest Offbeat Bride by Ariel Meadow Stallings. Best of all, it comes in three great flavors of book, blog, and community. The book is what started it all and if you can get your hands on it, it is a highly entertaining and comforting read for any married person-to-be. The blog is chock full of great ideas (or wedding porn!), advice, and advertisements for vendors who carter to brides and grooms who like to think outside the box. The community is full of all sorts of offbeat brides and grooms from a wide variety of other communities including geeks, gamers, goths, hippies, Wiccans, artists, enviromentalists, and well, just about anyone you can think of.
So whether you planning a magic fairy theme or chic cyberpunk theme or just want to make your traditional wedding more your own, I highly recommend trying out Offbeat Bride.